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If your friend screwed in your bed while you were not home what would you think?

ok scenario...my brother went on a first date with my friend last friday. I came home(san diego) at midnight from visiting my mother in the hospital(in l.a.) to bring the kids home. my bro has the key to my house...hubby gave it I didn't know. So anyhow my friend comes down from the upstairs...I automatically knew something was up. well come to find out they took it upon themselves to use my bed...we have a SOFABED!!
what would you do, think and how would you have handled it?

Thanks a lot!~A
 
aileen_c said:
If your friend screwed in your bed while you were not home what would you think?

ok scenario...my brother went on a first date with my friend last friday. I came home(san diego) at midnight from visiting my mother in the hospital(in l.a.) to bring the kids home. my bro has the key to my house...hubby gave it I didn't know. So anyhow my friend comes down from the upstairs...I automatically knew something was up. well come to find out they took it upon themselves to use my bed...we have a SOFABED!!
what would you do, think and how would you have handled it?

Thanks a lot!~A
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oh they didin't did they? I'd change the locks and tell your brother to get a room.... at a motel next time.........and I would get a new mattress!!!
 
I would have been fuming.:mad: That is a complete lack of respect just using your house in the first place, let alone your bed. Its just wrong!!

I would have got over it eventually but yes at first really annoyed.
 
Make them change the sheets and give them a high five.;)
 
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I would re-acess the whole "friend" thing. Come on how old are they? This is teenage crap.
Ahm Hello "friend" I set you up with my brother to go on a DATE..I'm not running a whorehouse here"!
I'd be UBER - Pissed, not just pissed.
Did you burn the sheets?
And your brother......eewwwww YUK !

Jennifer
 
Well... it's just sex after all so I don't think burning the sheets or buying a new mattress is necessary. However I do have a question... is this the brother who looks after the kids while you're at work? If so I'd be rethinking that.

Oh, and tell your friend and your brother the next time they have an itch, show some restraint until they get back to his or her place.

V
 
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Bad form........

And, not to mention.... replace that woman... diddling on the first date is a true sign of the way things will be down the road...
 
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BOSS said:
Bad form........

And, not to mention.... replace that woman... diddling on the first date is a true sign of the way things will be down the road...
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Agree 100%. I'd be upset that it took place in my home and especially on the first date.

Where have all the morals and values gone?
 
aileen_c said:
If your friend screwed in your bed while you were not home what would you think?

ok scenario...my brother went on a first date with my friend last friday.
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How old is your brother, how old is your friend?
 
Gosh I love this, So glad,,it makes my day,,,Hey its all good, it could be worse, and also don't assume,,,and its not the end of the world,, Sorry, We are all laughing here, best post in a while, Had to say it,,,,, You are a true gem dear...Hugs to you and yours..
 
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That's just flat out gross. Period. Yes, I'd be pissed. I'd be equally pissed at both of them. I would feel a bit betrayed that they didn't think enough of me and my family to respect our home. They totally disrespected you. It'd take me a while to get over that. Especially if you really knew me, you'd know I don't go for that kind of BS. I'm by no means a prude, but good grief, people should show a little respect for their family/friends and for themselves.

When I get pissed, I stay pissed. I can tolerate a lot. I can give people the benefit of the doubt over and over again. But once I've had enough, I've had enough. I can and have cut people out of my life whom I just could not deal with their bad behavior anymore. Not saying you should cut them out.. But I sure as hell would ask them WTF.

BTW, I asked my hubby for a man's perspective..He said he's be pissed too.
 
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Gosh I love this, So glad,,it makes my day,,,Hey its all good, it could be worse, and also don't assume,,,and its not the end of the world,, Sorry, We are all laughing here, best post in a while, Had to say it,,,,, You are a true gem dear...Hugs to you and yours..
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Me too, this one's a real knee slapper.


But seriously - you should post it on the internet.

Oh you did that.

Next step, get us pictures of her and an email or phone number so we can contact him to congratulate him.

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Ok to answer some questions. My brother was the one watching the kids he got switched back to days soon after I started the job. The friend is the one watching my kids for me one day a week. They are 31-her and 34-him.
And yes, I am 98% sure they actually did the deed on my bed.

I was completely pissed, my hubby was surprised that I read the situation spot on that night and confronted my brother the next morning before the kids got up.

Complete lack of respect is how I felt. He had the nerve to ask that very night before I headed up to bed if she can stay the night...I told him No! then the next morning after I confronted him, he had went out with my hubby and complained that i was acting like "Mom". my hubby let him have it and basically said what he did was f'ed up.

It's been a few days and I still feel wronged. My friend had called the next morning and was like so are you upset or were you just tired? I told her both. I told her how disrespectful it was what she did...she was like "oh sorry I just didn't think." And then asked to speak to my brother and hasn't spoken to me since. I'm being made to feel as if I'm the one in the wrong here....UGH!!!!
 
34? Wrong on so many levels. Yes he's thoughtless. Yes speak your mind and tell him. Let him apologize, then move on. Same with your friend. Calmly explain to them both that you will not allow "sleepovers" with your children; perhaps he should sleep over HER house.

It's gross and stupid, but I'd move on pretty quickly after explaining my side. Everybody screws up once, and you're within every right to act like a "mom" - you are one.
 
Thanks Tracy! That's exactly how I feel. :)
 
Keep in mind that how old one is does not dictate how mature they are.

I have a 31 year old sister with 3 kids, and I swear she's mentally not a day past 13.

I haven't talked to her in about 3 years, I had enough of her stupid BS...
She is one of those people who rob your energy.
 
shannonlovesflowers said:
Keep in mind that how old one is does not dictate how mature they are.
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Granted; however, if Aileen had said her brother was 18, and friend the same, I would give a little more leniency for teenage stupidity and hormones. At 31 & 34, they should know better.
 
bloomz....pics of what?? My bed that was violated??? lol
 
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