Another mentally challenging weekend

[lori042499]

Well this weekend is my little bros wedding....I am so excited for him, but also so sad...This is the first major life event for our family without my dad...As I sit here doing my brother's flowers, I am crying just trying to get it all out before sunday so I am not a blubbering idiot all day...

he has some sort of tribute planned for my dad at the wedding but won't tell us what it is as he wants it to be a surprise...

Please keep me in your thoughts this weekend and send me wishes of good times and making of new happy memories and limited amounts of sad moments...I know there will be some, but i just don't want them to over shadow my Brothers day...we have all had meltdowns this week leading up and I am hoping that that will take us into this wedding with good outlooks and the sadness dealt with in private...

I will post pictures of the wedding next week...the flowers are coming out very nice...It is all lt pink and lavender(amnesia) roses and pink orchids...everything came in like a dream....just beautiful and no stress on flower stuff...I am doing the flowers and I am also in the wedding, hopefully all of that will keep my mind of how badly I feel that my brother won't have my dad there for his wedding like I had....I am so super sad because it seems my brother has always gotten the shiit end of every stick when it came to events in our lives, I did let him know how sorry i was that it turned out like this, I hope it helped him....

 

[terri]

Lori, sending good thoughts & wishes your way. Think happy thoughts for your
brothers new beginning & how proud your Dad would be if he were there. I know the flowers will be beautiful-make sure there are no tears on them-just smiles.
terri

 

[conchandler]

Yes, we'll all be thinking of you. Was so sad for my daughter getting married without her dad there 5 years ago. So I understand. Just a thought, maybe you could take a tiny pic of dad and add it to the back of his bout, so he could be there in some fashion. Have a wonderful weekend and enjoy the wedding, AFTER you get all the work done. Good luck!

 

[avenuegardensflorist]

your Dad will be there. You will see it in so many ways.
He will experience your bros wedding the best of anyone!
Seek his presence and you will feel him there. Both my
parents are on to a much better place and I know they
see and watch over their family. Head up.

 

[Tracy D'Amico]

Oh Lori, firsts are so hard, just so hard. I was married 15 months after my mom died, and it was ridiculously hard to try and not let my sadness be part of our day. We did a chair at the ceremony, with a floral accent, that was to represent how she and others who have passed are still always present at these events. The chair was brought to the reception.

It was hard, but also necessary.

My thoughts will be with you & your family as you celebrate his day, and remember your dad is responsible for so many of your 'firsts'.

<hugs>

 

[Victoria]

Hugs and strength Lori. Your family will continue to build new memories with every day and every event. V

 

[Rhonda]

Hugs and happy thoughts for you to enjoy as well as remember..

 

[lil_goldie]

I hope you truly enjoy his day, but also enjoy the range of emotions you will be feeling. We are truly lucky as humans to have such strong bonds to others and I know your Dad will be there in spirit.

 

[sharonbrannigan]

i am doing a wedding next weekend for a bride who had lost her father a long time ago. she brought a charm to me with his photo in it tied to a ribbon and requested that i weave the piece into the bridal bouquet. very touching.

 

[elmo]

Wedding flowers sound wonderful. So much care and passion goes into work for our love ones, I know for the love you share with your brother, your designs will shine girl.
If you can get your tears in check before the wedding, those photos will be floating around for 100's of years and you will just hate the way your makeup has ran down the face.( trying to make you smile a little)
This wedding is a union of two people who are in love, and your getting a new sister-in-law.
I pray you all have a great happy time sharing this day with each other and all those guest too.:thumbsup
Get some rest and you want be tired and a bundle of nerves. Post a fer photo for us on FC. I wish you the best of days,its hard work to and be in the wedding,but you'll make every one proud. Eat a piece of cake for me too.(I love wedding cake)

 

[Tuberose]

Lori,
I know you want this to be a happy occasion for your family, but missing your dad is normal and everyone will understand. How can you not think of someone you cared so much about at a time like this and not miss them? I'm sure you will have happy and sad times during this event and rejoice at the new life together these people are starting.

Had a friend who's daughter had a baby shortly after the grand dad/father passed away, it felt like his memory wasn't included until someone mentioned him and then everyone started crying. Maybe that doesn't make sense but it did to me at the time, they were afraid to think about him that it would be sad, but it just felt even more sad not mentioning him, ok, I'm tired.