Bearer of bad news

Nov 22, 2009
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Here's the situation. I had a woman come in this morning and place an order going to North Dakota. She stayed and chatted (sigh) about what a wonderful woman the recipient is and about how dreadful it is for the son who is so devoted to his mother.

I called the florist to make sure they had a pink cyclamen, and then sent it out FSN.

FSN called me back and said the florist called them to say the woman had died.

After a whole lot more calling and sleuthing, I finally found out what funeral home, called them, just to learn that the woman has been cremated already and the family has picked up her ashes and are doing some private service of which they have no info.

I had thought I could just re-route the plant to the funeral service but not so. Now I have to call my customer and I really don't know what to say. I certainly will refund her money, although I have made two long-distance phone calls on her behalf. I just don't know how to say the recipient is dead.

Suggestions?
 
Did she know she was ill? Just with you saying that she said it was terrible for the son??

I would just bite the bullet, call her and say you are awfully sorry to be the bearer of bad news and that you have just learnt that the lady has passed away. You could maybe offer to give her number to the family so that they can contact the sender.

Sorry you have to deal with this Linda, just shows how diverse our jobs are sometimes...
 
When I worked closer to Boston...I used to get many hospital orders that when calling for a room number we would be told the patient expired...I used to have to cal the sender back and let them know that the recipient died before we got to them..it got easier the more I did it...
 
Believe it or not... years ago, before my parents owned the shop (my mom worked for the previous owner) there was a guy who called to place a Mother's Day order to his mom in a nursing home. During delivery we found out the guys mother had passed away 2 YEARS prior!
 
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During delivery we found out the guys mother had passed away 2 YEARS prior!
wow!!!! what do you say?
Like "I'm sorry to tell you your mom passed away.......two years ago."
Must be either a terrible son or he has some forgetfulness problems (Alzheimers?).
 
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Believe it or not... years ago, before my parents owned the shop (my mom worked for the previous owner) there was a guy who called to place a Mother's Day order to his mom in a nursing home. During delivery we found out the guys mother had passed away 2 YEARS prior!

not so fast...we sent out wedding invitations to an uncle who'd been dead almost 2 years, and we were AT THE FUNERAL!!
 
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wow!!!! what do you say?
Like "I'm sorry to tell you your mom passed away.......two years ago."
Must be either a terrible son or he has some forgetfulness problems (Alzheimers?).

Well, I was only "holiday help" back then, so I didn't have to do it. The owner at the time did, not exactly sure what he said to the guy.

I guess the guy had been out of touch with his mom for quite some years and decided out of the blue to send her some flowers. He didn't know she had passed, very sad.
 
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We had a similar situation lst year. A client ordered his wife a vase of Black Magic roses (her favorite) to be delivered in 2 days. The day before delivery, people began ordering funeral flowers for the husband. Evidently he had died suddenly after he had ordered the roses and we had to call the wife, express our sympathies, and tell her about her husband's order. Then we had to ask if she still wanted the flowers as a memorial. That was tough. BYW .. she didn't want the flowers. I can understand.
 
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I've had to deal with that about 3 times. It is not fun but just stuck to the truth and the people were very grateful that I was upfront with them.

Sounds bad but I had to get the giggles out first before I called. Sometimes it's like a bad Lucille Ball movie and you can't help but laugh
 
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Just an update, I know Shannon was wondering. I tried calling the sender several times, but never got an answer. The next day, she called to tell us about it, and wondered what happened to the flowers. I was able to then tell her of the phone calls we made on her behalf trying to get the flowers delivered to the funeral but I couldn't get a florist to do them in time. I refunded all but $5 for the phone calls I had to make.