donation request for a buck and doe!

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(thats a party the bride and groom throw for themselves to fund raise for the wedding)

and the Mother of the bride came in with a typed up letter stating "your gracious donation will be acknowledged to support them in their endeavours" and "The opportunity provides funding to assist in a wide range of prizes, while also, supporting hte same consumers whom take part in supporting your operations"

"As well as maintaining your continous support in your community for a good cause which I am sure you wil view as making strong forward strides and a win win situation for all parties concerned"


It goes on and on about how good it would be for the business to donate.

so I asked her..

where do the bride and groom live. (not in this town)

Will we be doing the wedding flowers (no I did them myself to save money)

SO
I very nicely replied
You are my 4th request for donation this week and we only donate to Non profit causes.

really?? donated prizes for a buck and doe not even being held in this town for a couple that didn't get their flowers here????
 
People just don't get it, do they.

We choose 4 local charities we are supporting this year. and then we may do 3 optional ones that come along (like this weekend we did an event for 3 gold star moms in our area) THAT'S IT

Then our biggest charity: ME and my family :)
 
Yes I pre picked my list of charities in Jan and that is to be it.
but then the horticultural society is looking for a door prize so I might give to them too.

I was asked to sit on a commity to plan a "teady's bear picnic" in town and I had to say NO we are NOT going to ask the printer in town to do the posters for free and thats what he gets paid to do! and NO we will not hit up every store in town for a prize... I said it nicely but made it clear that the businesses in town get asked to donate too often.
 
People have become extremely brash. I would love to see what Miss Manners would have to say about this ~ asking perfect strangers to give merchandise for prizes for a fundraiser FOR A GOOD CAUSE is one thing, but for personal benefit is completely another. And then asking your friends and family and who knows who else to come and donate money to fund your wedding. Unacceptable.
 
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Brash is a polite word. Last year MOB came in and told me she going to allow me the exposure to 250 high people by choosing 6 florists to decorate a section of the reception room and putting our name on it. She even had a spec sheet (size of arrangements and colors). I just kept smiling and told her thank you so much for thinking of us, but we don't do design events like this. She just stood there and was shocked that I didn't jump on this. Wedding was changed from the venue she first mentioned.
 
Wow. I have not had to respond to such a tacky request (yet) but fore warned is fore armed! Unbelievably nervy to ask for donations to your wedding. I'm afraid I would not be very polite if asked.
 
This made my blood boil!!! How tacky, digusting, and cheap. What's worse is that they don't seem to have any shame or embarrassment about it. Borderline entitlement. Sorry....I don't usually rant about things, but this "please pay for my party attitude" just makes me fume. (OK, I feel better now.....thanks for "listening").
 
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I was invited to my cousin's daughter's wedding several years ago. The "invitation" included a list gifts they would like (I was told to choose one or two). Not un-common although in my world the couple registers at a couple of stores and then send a list of the stores they are registered at.

The reason I didn't go OR send a gift? I was also given a list of the foods they would prefer I bring. Say what? We do that for family pot-luck holidays ~ NOT weddings! Oh, and the sour cream on the enchilada was "please do not bring children". NO PROB!
 
concord said:
If you can't afford a wedding you should elope. It's just so wrong to expect guests to pay for your day.
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Why even elope? There is no social stigma remaining, at least in most of the world, to just living together. If there are essential -religous perhaps- reasons demanding a wedding, do it legally, have no party and save what money you have.
 
This post irritates me to no end! The absolute gall and nerve of these people! This is NOT a donation, they are asking for free merchandise to just walk out of your store with you holding the empty bad.

This reminds me of a situation a few years ago. A teacher at a local high school was providing a baby shower during lunch (at the high school). She wanted us to donate a centerpiece. I politely explained to her that her request isn't a donation. She is asking for free product. I went on to explain to her exactly what a donation is. I also told her that if I gave away something to her, how would it be fair to not give away arrangements to others.

There are times when you need to just tell it like it is. Some people have no common sense.
 
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I have NEVER heard of such a thing.WHAT nerve!! I can not believe the balls on people.Hey I know,I need a new delivery vehicle think the dealership will donate it to me???!! :cool:
 
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BOSS said:
I get that every Friday night at billiards.... for free ;)
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Plumber's "butt" doesn't count!...:)
Don't get all worked up about this, we already "know" that what we USED to call "common sense" is OUT the window!, Be firm and polite when you just say
"NO".........
 
anytimeflowers said:
I was invited to my cousin's daughter's wedding several years ago. The "invitation" included a list gifts they would like (I was told to choose one or two). Not un-common although in my world the couple registers at a couple of stores and then send a list of the stores they are registered at.

The reason I didn't go OR send a gift? I was also given a list of the foods they would prefer I bring. Say what? We do that for family pot-luck holidays ~ NOT weddings! Oh, and the sour cream on the enchilada was "please do not bring children". NO PROB!
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I thought about this, for maybe a second!
My answer IS "I can't attend...I'm with THE KIDS!!"......
 
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I tried to tactfully get that point acoss once with a non-profit board of directors I was a member of. Another member (a "professional volunteer" - not someone in business) immediately shot back with "OK. We'll just go to Wal-Mart then. They'll give us what we need." That was the end of that discussion.
 
WE had a "ladies club" from an exclusive lake association once ask us to donate centerpieces for one of their get togethers. They did no charitable work-it was simply a social group. I was shocked that they would ask. This was a number of years ago and I remember thinking "aren't these people supposed to be our paying customers?"
 
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