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joanne

joanne

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This has to be the worst day in my life lately. We had to put Mom in the hospital as we couldn't get her pain under control. She is mad as hell at Cathy and i but we had no choice. She told us she wanted to die at home and we are going to try to honour her wishes but until they can get her meds straightened out we had no choice. Her fantenol (sic) has been up 2 times now and she is having break through, so they are going to give her dilotid(sic). Then i went out to Doc's house and talked to him . he is going to acess her in the morning and we will go from there. Its just a friggin nightmare..
Joanne
 
I'm sorry Joanne. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers....hugs.
 
Sometimes we have to make the hardest decisions, don't we. Mom's illness, her meds and changes her body is going through make all of her anger, fear and decisions explainable...all you can do is know that you and your family are making the best choices for her.It is a rough road you walk but yu have many FC family who have had to walk similiar roads and we are here to send you our support and love,
Sher
 
Sorry, Joanne.
I'll bet that was very difficult and heart-wrenching.
It's so hard to watch our parents through the aging process.
 
Joanne,

I know how hard it is to see your parent so sick. Despair isn't even the word for it. You wish you could do something but you also know there's nothing you can really do. Your mom is in good hands at the hospital.

Try to get some rest tonight. You deserve it.
 
HUGS AND MORE HUGS

Me on one side and Mikey on the other.....

Luc
 
My heart goes out to you. You are doing the best you can, and please go easy on yourself. Take care. Melissa
 
It's never easy when you are in charge of a parents health care. Been there done that. Interresting how our roles change as the parents age. Blessings....

T
 
Joanne its tough love, you are doing it for the good of your mum. So sorry you are even having to make these decisions. Am really thinking about you from over here xx
 
Joanne, please know you are in my thoughts and prayers...don't be so hard on yourself...you are doing the right thing...Mom is only angry because she is in so much pain and lashing out at the ones she loves..(been there) be strong I know it hurts..God willing they will get the meds straightened out and she will come home...HUGs
Becky
 
Joanne, I am so, so sorry that all of this is happening. I understand a bit of what you're going through. My dad, my hero, blew up at me at the hospital one day because I told him that he could not make Mom bring him meds from home, and when I asked the hospital staff about it in front of him he told me, yelled at me, to "get the hell out of there." I stayed away for a week, letting my sisters take over the care of Dad and, indirectly, of Mom. It's a decision that I still regret because he was so frustrated with the care that he was getting, which was confusing and even conflicting, that he spoke harshly to me. It was less than a month before he died.

I know that you are taking the absolute best care of your mother, and I share my story only to tell you that you must try to not take her anger to your heart. Forgive her instantly and understand that her anger is not really at you and Cathy but at her helplessness, pain, and frustration.

I continue to pray for you, Cathy, your mom, and all of her caretakers. Your FC family loves you very much, Joanne.
 
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