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Somehow in my family and life I ended up being the "Strong One". So now I've had the crap scared out of me and I can't really say anything. I went for a mammogram Monday, I turned 40 this year so time to start. Everything was going great we (the lady taking the films) were laughing and making jokes it wasn't near as bad as I thought it would be. Everything changed when she said to let her make sure the films came out and she would be with me in a few minutes.. When she came out she was almost somber and told me that we would have to go across the hall to ultrasound. To make a long story short they found a "mass" and before lunch I had 2 ultrasounds and a biopsy(that part sucked). Now I have to wait 3 days to hear from the results and all I was told was my Dr. would make an appointment to go over treatment options. I know that must happen to people everyday, but I was just unnerved. What scared me the most was that I never had to wait. I was walked past a waiting room of people each time i went somewhere different. I'm trying to convince myself it's nothing. I am glad that part is over so I didn't have to dread it for days and I hope that will be the worst of it. I know God will give me strength to face whatever he chooses for me. Thanks for listening to how I really feel.
Sophie
 
keeversmom said:
Somehow in my family and life I ended up being the "Strong One". So now I've had the crap scared out of me and I can't really say anything. I went for a mammogram Monday, I turned 40 this year so time to start. Everything was going great we (the lady taking the films) were laughing and making jokes it wasn't near as bad as I thought it would be. Everything changed when she said to let her make sure the films came out and she would be with me in a few minutes.. When she came out she was almost somber and told me that we would have to go across the hall to ultrasound. To make a long story short they found a "mass" and before lunch I had 2 ultrasounds and a biopsy(that part sucked). Now I have to wait 3 days to hear from the results and all I was told was my Dr. would make an appointment to go over treatment options. I know that must happen to people everyday, but I was just unnerved. What scared me the most was that I never had to wait. I was walked past a waiting room of people each time i went somewhere different. I'm trying to convince myself it's nothing. I am glad that part is over so I didn't have to dread it for days and I hope that will be the worst of it. I know God will give me strength to face whatever he chooses for me. Thanks for listening to how I really feel.
Sophie
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I don't even know what to say, other than we are here to listen. I know how it is being the strong one in a family. You sometimes feel all alone when you need someone. I am sure there are others here who know how you feel also. Many good wishes for health and good news. Whatever the outcome, we are here for you when you need a listening ear...God bless and good wishes for you..
 
Sophie.
things have come a long long way.. the outlook is very good now -that is why the mammogram is so good.. and getting pushed ahead of lots of people is not negative.. that shows you have a good health care system in place..
Listen to all the options... In wa most cases it was ok to spend a week looking at options and then go with the best plan.. and do what the doctors say.. follow the procedures and speak up if you can;t hear (when we get scared we stop hearing everything that is said) or if you don't understand.. and take someone with you.. a good friend or family member that will be helpful.
Let us know whats up because there is a lot of knowledge here and lots of support
Carol
 
I've been where you are at, and I know how hard it is. The not knowing is really the hardest. Keep a positive attitude and don't assume the worst. I am so bad about that, I always need to take a deep breath and go with facts, not fear.
You are in my thoughts, keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

HUGS
 
Oh Sophie,
Thoughts for support from NJ - lean on those you have supported for so long - you'll be surprised. Needing support does not equal lack of strength. Please keep us informed of your progress...

sending you a warm hug of strength,
tracy
 
Sophie, lots of hugs and prayers are coming your way. I went through two years of repeat mammos every six months while they "checked out" the differences in the films. It was two years of waiting for a verdict. Keep strong thoughts (yes, it is very okay to be the strong one, the rest of the family needs it). We are all here to support you.
 
Sophie,
Im really rubbish when it comes to saying things! Lots of people on here have ways with words which I just dont have.

However, keep strong. As hard as it may seem. As mentioned modern science has come on leaps and bounds and there are soooo many options SHOULD you need them.

In the meantime everyone here on facechat is here to supply plenty of hugs and encouragement! :ghug:
 
Sophie... you are the strong one. There is no law that says you always have to be strong however. It is important to lean on your inner circle and your friends bound by invisible lines.

Love and prayers from me to you. Anytime you need ears or cyber hugs... we have them here for the taking.

V
 
Well I guest I am the first male to answer this thread.
I look at it as a blessing that you decided to go now for that examination. Glad that you did not wait till it may have been to late IF IT IS.
Sometime they discover mass that are not cancerous.
It is the tests and waiting that probably is the worst of everything.
We as human beings , we often jump to the worst conclusion before we even hear the doctors report.
Todays techonology and advance treatments give the women higher chance of survival when it comes to breast cancer.
God does not gives us anything we can't handle.
You will find the strenght you need to deal with this on the upcoming days.

If you need a second opinion...send me a picture of your breasts and I will go from there....lol

May his strenght and courage be with you.
Luc
 
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Sophie...
It's all easier said than done but do let your circle of angels surround you, protect you and love you. Allow them to carry this burden while you take a long exhale.
Prayers, prayers and more prayers to you.
 
keeversmom said:
I know God will give me strength to face whatever he chooses for me.
Sophie
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GOD gave you the strength to KNOW that you will beat this, as you WILL!!
Certain people are "hand picked" to be the "strong ones"!!....it's an honour to have this bestowed upon you,( though a few curse words come in handy from time to time!!) It's NOT time to say :censor:yet!!
 
Sophie,

Mere words cannot express all that we know you must be going thru right now. But take strength in knowing that there are many friends here that care, even tho we have never met face to face. We share what some friendships might never achieve, no matter how many miles separate us. You have people that sincerely care and will listen and will pray for you. Try to think possitively and not trip over the "mouse droppings" of your minds imagination. Waiting is probably the hardest challenges that we all face, but fill your days with as much as you can. I know that you will get thru this with beauty and poise. We will all be here for you and praising your efforts verbally and silently.

You go girl!! :blowkiss:
 
Sophie ...your name is derived from the Greek and it's meaning is Wisdom. That is why you are always 'known' as the strong one. My name is Sonya and it has the same meaning. Your strong for a reason and that reason is RIGHT NOW! Do not think of the 'maybes' do not think of the ' whys' and do not think of the ' hows'. You need to stay STRONG to stay POSITIVE and fill up the next few days,weeks or months with things to do. If you THINK about it for a minute, GET RID OF IT! Do not let it penetrate through your body for ONE SECOND! This is where Strong comes into play. 'Take every thought captive and make it obey the will of God'.
We are all here to keep your spirit alive and to keep your thoughts of negativity away. Your words have life to them so mind what you say and do not accept a negative word into your heart...for thats when it can grow and become distructive to your life. So battle the battle of being Strong to keep the bad thoughts at bay!
 
Sophie, Know that we all love you and your in our thoughts and prayers! being the strong one in a family sometimes isn't easy when the shoe is on the other foot, but take a step and you'll be amazed at how your family will help out in your time of needing them, I am the same way always the strong one, so when I needed help it was hard for me to except it but my family was more then willing to help!! My thoughts and prayers are with you!!! We have an awesome Flowerchat family also and we are all here for you!!! HUGSSSS!!!! Tina
 
Sophie,
Our hearts go out to you tonight from Pitsburgh.

You were walked quickly to the head of the line so that you would not have to wait in agony.....and they needed to get several tests completed before they could give you a good treatment plan.

There are many, many options today....and none of them anywhere near as awful as our Moms or aunts or grandmothers endured. My Grandmother was a 19 year breast cancer survivor.....and a patient of experimental medicine because she got signed up for a study when she had no insurance. She had a double masectomy, and part of her lung removed.....massive doses of radiation......and survived for 19 wonderful years after! She died of heart disease....not cancer.

My Mom, and 2 of her sisters are cancer survivors. In our family, it's apparently in the genes (or maybe the air or water, who knows)

The good news is that IT MAY NOT BE CANCER! They found a mass, it was tested and biopsied (very awful procedure!!). Now the hard part is the waiting for the resulsts.

As Carol said, when the doctor calls you, schedule an appointment time and take someone else (preferably a woman) with you.. (MEN DO NOT LISTEN WELL). Have your companion take notes or tape record the conversation with the doctor. Make no snap decisions that day. Go home, process the information and decide. You do have time to do that.

Today, the radiation treatment is much more targeted, and the sessions are much less intense. The Chemo (if they go that route) is less likely to cause the side effects that it once did. (My friend Gabrielle was just tired, and lost some weight....no hair loss or throwing up like it used to be).

Know that we are all here for you, and will listen and help in any way that we can. We know that you are frightened...we would be too.

Our prayers go out to you today and every day. Into God's hands we place your problem and pray to him for a good, positive result.

With best regards,
Cheryl
 
Just know that you are in my prayers and that I trust all will be well. Finding a lump, and all the procedures of the day does not mean a bad diagnosis. Although it is very hard, try not to think of the possibilities until and if you have to. Then if you must you can cross that bridge with all of us here to listen and pray for you. With us you won't have to hold back and be strong, the way it is with family. I know, I'm the same way. They think I'm a rock...if only they knew. But until you have the diagnosis, try hard not to dwell on it....I just know it's going to be a waste of your good energy since all will be well. With love and caring
Pat
 
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