Just got a call from my mom...

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My grandfather isn't doing very well. He has anywhere from a few days to a few months to live. He has been living at a Nursing Home for about a year now. He is in his 80s. He can't feed himself anymore. He had a blood transfusion a few weeks ago, Dr. says he needs another one. My Grandmother and Aunt just decided not to go with the next transfusion in fact, they decided not to do anything but make him comfortable. I know it is for the best and he has lived a long and good life. But it is still VERY HARD. At the moment I still have all 4 grandparents, at 29 I know I am lucky to have them. My Grandmother is not doing the best herself, she has Parkenson's and is also in her 80s.
My FI and I are going to see him first thing in the AM. I am going to visit him every day if I can. I used to see him everyday when he first went into the Nursing Home. But as time went on I visited less and less. I wish I had seen him more in the last few months. It has honestly been a while since I have seen him.
 
Carrianne, don't regret the time lost, rather, keep close the times you enjoyed together and build more memories as you can.

V
 
Carrieann, just wanted to let you know you have a friend in Ohio. Praying for your wisdom, and peace.

I went through a similar situation with an uncle. We became very good friends, and I will cherish every time he went to flower factory with me!
 
Carrieann,

I will keep you near in thought and prayer. You will bring much comfort, peace and joy to your grandfather just by being by his side. Hold his hand, whisper that you love him & always hold your cherished memories close to your heart.
 
Spend as much time as you can with him. Those last few hours will be powerfully etched in your memory. Tomorrow is my FIL, 40 day memorial service in Stl.

As this business dicates our lives, I have to miss the 40 day memorial service because I have 110 funeral deliveries to make tomorrow. That isn't a misprint.

Two huge funerals.

I was there up to a few minutes before my FIL died. Those are memories I will always appreciate.

SO. go and be there while he is still with you.

Joe
 
Carrieann,

Hugs to you. Like others have said, just go and be there. Don't worry about the past. I know he understands that you are busy. It won't be easy, but I know it will mean everything to him.

Thinking of you,
Beth :~(
 
Carrieann,
thoughts from NJ ... I believe in the last days and beyond, all becomes clear. No more questions unanswered. He knows your heart fully.

tracy
 
Those last few days are so important and it is amzing how clear they can become. The last week I spent with my husband before he passed away will carry me forever...so much was said, so much was expressed to all of our family that we talk about it almost everyday. My husband was a quiet man but before he passed, he spoke to each of us about how important we were to him and we got a chance to tell him how much he mean't to all of us. Don't miss a minute with your grandfather. .
Sher
 
Thank you all for the kind words. I saw him this morning, he doesn't look like himself. We all talked about the past and when we were kids. He seemed to like that. He would not tell us any stories but when we spoke of stories he smiled and commented on the story being told. It was a good visit overall. I will be sure to visit him every chance I get. Thanks all again.
 
Carrieanne.....

Spend the time that you can......it'll never be enough...hold his hand, let him know he can ALWAYS reach for you!!
You Gramma may not last along after he passes....she, like many, want to continue THEIR love in the next realm....don't be too upset
 
Mikey, I know what you mean.. I have thought of that myself. My best friend lost her mother a few years back to a bad battle of cancer. FOUR months later, her father died!! He just gave up after losing her. It is real hard to loose two people you love so dearly so close, but when you really think about it, it is the most beautiful thing... to have a love that powerful!!!
 
My Prayers.....

Carrieanne -

Everyone who knows me, knows I don't pray much. It is for this reason that God knows that when I do pray, it is of the utmost importance...and therefore my requests are normally moved to the front of a very long line.

Right now I pray that you and your Grandfather have the highest quality time ...however much remains....

God Bless....
 
Carrieann, I am praying for you and your family. I echo what others have said, spend as much time as you can with him. You'll never regret a moment that you spend with him, and your presence can bring him much comfort. God bless you.
 
Carrieanne:
I just read your post about your 4 living grandparents.....You are so lucky to have all 4 around you.
Enjoy & cherish every moment you can with all of them. Talk and laugh, and remember....and create new memories.
When death comes, and it will come, remember fondly the good times that you have spent with your grandpap.......and help your grandma understand just how precious he was to you.
Hugs, thoughts & prayers to all your family, from Pennsylvania.

Best Regards,
Cheryl
 
How is he doing, Carrieann? How are you doing?

Beth :~/
 
Carrieann,

Spend as much time as you can with him. I have lost both of my grandparents on my Dad's side in the last few years. I was there everyday helping to take care of them. I had some wonderful conversations with them right up till the end. They had been married for 60 years and were everything a love should be. I learned so much from the experience. They were there when I took my first breath, and I was there for their last. I do not mean this to sound odd, but it was beautiful.
I will cherish those memories for the rest of my life.
You are in my thoughts. Take care and God bless.
 
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tantalizingblooms2005 said:
Carrieann,

Spend as much time as you can with him. I have lost both of my grandparents on my Dad's side in the last few years. I was there everyday helping to take care of them. I had some wonderful conversations with them right up till the end. They had been married for 60 years and were everything a love should be. I learned so much from the experience. They were there when I took my first breath, and I was there for their last. I do not mean this to sound odd, but it was beautiful.
I will cherish those memories for the rest of my life.
You are in my thoughts. Take care and God bless.
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that was beautiful!!:bouquet:
 
He is still holding on. He doesn't look the best. He doesn't want to eat much or do much of anything. When I talk about "remember when" he likes it, will add a few things to the story, but he will not tell me a story like he used to. In the last year, I have learned ALOT about my grandparents lives, he loved to tell me a story about when I was little, when my dad was little, when he was dating my grandmother, and when he was little. But, now it is my turn to remember stories and tell him. It makes him smile and that is the best thing right now.

Last weekend I went to Maine with my FI. A bit nervious to go far away just now, but was talked into it, I really needed a vacation. I was on the phone with my dad and he couldn't talk long. Later I called him back, he said earlier he couldn't talk because he was walking into the hospital.... (cell phone cuts out....) I said, Why, what's wrong.... He called me back on a land line and he said, no no, I was going into the hosiptal to deliver flowers!! YEAH YEAH for delivering flowers!!! Anyway, this may sound selfish, but I am really glad he didn't pass while I was gone, I would of never forgave myself, and would never go back to Maine again.

I am sure it will happen soon, but as I look at him I am sad and releaved at the same time, He is not happy, not himself, and I believe is ready to go.
I will be very sad, I will cry, and I will want him back, but I think I have made peace with it.

Thanks everyone for all the kind words and thoughts.
 
Carrieann, you are giving him a wonderful gift and paving the way for a peaceful transition.

Hugs and thoughts coming your way each day...

V
 
God's continuing blessings on you and your family, Carrieann.
 
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