no matter how bad it is.. it could be worse

[shannonlovesflowers]

My hubbys Uncle died the week of Valentines day. The funeral was on Valentines day.
he left a widow, he was only 68.

My hubbys Aunt Bev (the widow) Father died day before yesterday. So now her dad's funeral is this Saturday.. 2 deaths in 2 weeks, both the most important men in her life.

She was so unbelievably sad when I last saw her. Life is sure tough on sweet people sometimes..

geez, poor woman.

 

[Palms]

Poor Poor thing, my heart goes out to her...

David Cameron a politicians son who was 6 also died today over here, absolute tragedy.. My heart literally bleeds for them.

You are right, just when you start to feel sorry for yourself, something happens to give you a kick where you need it!!

Life is more important than ANYTHING!!

 

[elmo]

So sad for her. Your right, Counting my blessings now.

 

[Victoria]

Thank you both for sharing these sad stories. You're both right... life is the gift and often it's too fleeting.

V

 

[aileen_c]

Oh Shannon....that's soooo sad. Hugs.

 

[Dorothy]

Shannon, I feel your Aunt (she's yours too!)... she, your hubsand, close family members, as well as others will likely begin learning the difference between "mourning" and "grieving" - if they didn't understand it before. It's not easy, but a necessity for some of us to go through.

I still grieve my parents' passing, 8 years later, because they died so suddenly, so close together (just over three weeks apart - young too! only 62 & 64)... a funeral before Christmas and again right after.

At times I wondered how I would get through it. Time felt suspended. I was locked in an empty room and no way out. I endured. Eventually, a long time later, the crying began to subside and I started wanting to do simple tasks again - not just "doing" them like a robot. But it took a looooooong time.

The best support I received was in the form of patience and love. No one pressured me to "get over it". I was lucky.

However, if there had been a support group then I would have joined. Just being around and talking with others who are feeling a similar pain is therapy. I did seek private counseling.

I also found a great place online where you can honor your loved one http://www.memory-of.com/Public/ - light candles, add photos, music, even video.

I hope your Aunt and the whole family receives tons of support.

 

[Beth]

OMG, that is heart breaking!

 

[lori042499]

Shannon, I fell very badly for your Aunt, so sad...

If you remember I lost my Dad, march 1st last year...He was the most important person in my life..I have been feeling that loss for the whole year, It is starting to get better but still hurts like crazy...Some days I am still paralyzed with greif. It is a long road when someone so close is lost without and warning or sooner than is thought should be...

Have patience and love for her, support her as well as you can, and just let her cry if she must that I am finding the hard way is the best thing, to let it out, not something I am good at because i know how uncomfortable it makes other people, so I hold it in until I have time by myself, but that is why I get the way I do, from bottling it up until it gets to much to bottle...

This is a great reminder that life could seem like the sky is falling, but somewher some how some one has it worse than you...and you should be thankful and gracious for the things you do still have...If most of us just look there is so much in our lives that is good even if business sux or life events suc, There are children, moms, grandparents, signifigant others etc that are what makes life good...things don't matter much its the people and lives that matter the most.

 

[Connie]

Locally and recently, we had a young family whose car went into a lake. The father managed to escape, but he could not rescue his wife and his two young children. The young man committed suicide last week.

I am so, so sorry for what your aunt is having to endure.

Lori, I too still miss my dad so much, and he will have been gone 3 years in June.

 

[Mocha Rose]

Your family is in my thoughts. A similar thing happened to my grandmother 5 years ago. She lost her husband, her father, her brother and a good friend all to cancer within one month. I'm amazed by the strength that she was able to show but it really took a toll on her for years.

She's doing much better now and has even started dating again!