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Our Docs wife popped in to see me today. I haven't gone back to work yet . There has been so many things to do. Finally got the last of the paper work and bank taken care off. I got Mom's ashes back today and I have my Dad's as well. My sister (out in bc) came up with a great idea we are having small wooden boxes made( Loir that works for me , her husband does a lot of woodowrking) He is going to make 8 small boxes and we are going to put a Bit of Dad and Mom in the boxes and they will be sealed shut. We are then going to honor their wishes and spread their ashes where they wanted them to be
I now know what it feels like to be a Orphan.. god its the scariest feeling in the world. If you have both or one of your parents please take a moment to call or go visit , because when they are gone you won't have that option. It is amazing how we take things for granted, but i am at peace knowing that i spent all my time with both of them before they passed and from that i can draw some comfort.
Pick up the phone and call or pop in for a visit , never take things for granted
Joanne
 
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Bless you, Joanne, for thinking of us during this sad, sad time in your life.

I'm definitely taking your advice.

My sister and I had lunch with Mom Tuesday. Mom barely said a word except to apologize for being so much trouble. She is slipping deeper into dementia, and she knows that she is, as she says, losing her mind. She was extremely sad and quiet.

Yesterday I brought her to the shop and told her how to help me glue some things. She got glue all over herself before I realized it, and although I showed her several times how to glue the items back to back, she had glued them front to front. I suddenly "remembered" that we had to have some vases greened up. So one of the designers and I kept bringing her vases of water into which she inserted leatherleaf. She was so thrilled to be able to do something that she knew how to do. We are aware that she did not cut or wipe the stems, and the stems were just standing straight up. We placed them in the cooler until we "needed" them.

She called this morning to see if we needed her help today, but I just did not have a moment to go and get her because we're so busy with a wedding and other orders. I did, however, talk to the staff and told them that Mom would be coming to the shop at least 2 days a week from now on. She can "green up" to her heart's content. What a little thing to make her so happy!

I'm also bringing a sofa and ottoman to my private office so that she can take breaks (naps), watch some TV, and/or crochet.

Mom can no longer drive, and she had been a fiercely independent lady all of her life.....always taking care of other people. It breaks my heart that she is declining almost right before our eyes.

Thank you again for your reminder.
 
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My father passed away last Sept and I was very glad that he had re-connected. You are right it is very important and makes you feel very loved. I always check in on my mother and the same with her. My siblings grumble about her calling but I tell them remember that she's still with us and loves us very much.Thanks for the reminder and just to be thankful for everyone that comes in and out of our lives.
 
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I am still lucky to have my Mom and Dad around. Mom was here today working on a wedding with me. She's not as fast as she used to be but I don't care it is time well spent.

thanks for the reminder.

Connie,
I know your pain, My Mom in law passed from Alzheimer's and it is truly a wicked wicked heart wrenching disease. Keeping you in my prayers.
 
I am absolutely going to take that advice. I am taking my mum to her first gig on wednesday to see Take That, she is soo excited. Even though she lives in Spain we talk three times a day at least and i see her every 6 weeks.

I do however need to make more time for my dad (they are seperated) and this has certainly made me think, thanks Joanne and I am so so sorry for what you are going through. It must be really tough...

Please keep sharing with us, love that you thought to pass on the advice and really appreciate it.;)
 
I'm going to have to stop being so thick skinned toward my parents.( long story) But dang if I know how, Don't want to get hurt or walked on. Lot of water under the bridge......
 
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