Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day

[FlowerGirl1972]

Please keep all the bereaved mothers and fathers in the world in your thoughts and prayers. Today is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day! This is very near and dear to me and I would appreciate it if everyone would take time to light a candle or just stop and remember all of the babies that didn't make it in the world! Thank you for taking time to read this. Tina

 

[lori042499]

I had no idea there was a day to remember us.

I have always felt that those of us who have experienced a pregnancy loss were in our own private hell. Most never talk about it, but it exists quietly, more than most of us know. You really never know how much until it happens to you and other people reach out and feel your pain that have benn through it before.

This September 11 should have been my child's 4th birthday had I not had a misscarriage in February. I feel for anybody who has lost a pregnancy or a child as to most they are the same thing.

I was devestated by this event, much more than I am willing to admit to myself an others. So devestated that I have never tried again to have a child. So I will spend a moment and light a candle in front of my house at 7pm this evening. Thank you for this post. And my heart goes out to all that have experienced a loss.

 

[FlowerGirl1972]

I had no idea there was a day to remember us.

I have always felt that those of us who have experienced a pregnancy loss were in our own private hell. Most never talk about it, but it exists quietly, more than most of us know. You really never know how much until it happens to you and other people reach out and feel your pain that have benn through it before.

This September 11 should have been my child's 4th birthday had I not had a misscarriage in February. I feel for anybody who has lost a pregnancy or a child as to most they are the same thing.

I was devestated by this event, much more than I am willing to admit to myself an others. So devestated that I have never tried again to have a child. So I will spend a moment and light a candle in front of my house at 7pm this evening. Thank you for this post. And my heart goes out to all that have experienced a loss.

I am so sorry for you loss Lori and I too know this pain, I lost my daughter Emily on December 14, 2006. Just know that you are NOT alone, I have met some really brave women that have walked this same road.:hug: Big hugss to ya and anyone else that has walked this road of heartache and pain.

 

[vnance]

I too was not aware that there was a day set aside for this. I am sorry that I did not see your post prior to 7:00 as I would certainly have lit a candle to honor my son James who was stillborn on May 9, 2004. To make matters worse, it was also Mother's Day which needless to say no longer has the same meaning. My heart truly goes out to any woman who has had to share this unfortuante loss.

 

[Joe Mioux]

How ironic,

I heard earlier today on KMOX 1120 am radio in STL, that a woman gave birth to a baby yesterday.

The baby had a blood alcohol level .17 pct and the mother had .18 pct.

the baby died.

 

[CHR]

Hugs to you all.

I've avoided this thread because 'going there' in my heads is just too draining. Lori, 'private hell' is so true.

A few weeks ago I received an email from a lady who said her sister had had a daughter who was stillborn. The family barely had enough money for the funeral and no funds for flowers. The service was being held at the FH nearest us. I called - and indeed only an hour before the visitation there were no flowers.

I pulled out our best pink roses and made a tiny casket piece hoping something beautiful would help ease the family's pain.

Flowers from friends and family helped us heal - but nothing but time dulls the sheer heartache. And even time doesn't stop all tears.

 

[Debij]

Girls, Words cannot describe........ I shed a tear for your loss as well as for myself. But what I've learned is to be compassionate towards others and give where there is the greatest need. Flowers can feed the soul at a very sad time. I thank God every day, that I am in a business where I can help those less fortunate as I see a great need. I pray that you all continue to heal.

Regards, Debbie

 

[Debij]

Hugs to you all.

I pulled out our best pink roses and made a tiny casket piece hoping something beautiful would help ease the family's pain.

Flowers from friends and family helped us heal - but nothing but time dulls the sheer heartache. And even time doesn't stop all tears.

Cathy, What a sweet & beautiful thing to do...In turn it helps you heal a little tiny bit more.

Debbie

 

[FlowerGirl1972]

Hugs to you all.


Flowers from friends and family helped us heal - but nothing but time dulls the sheer heartache. And even time doesn't stop all tears.

This is so true, not even time stops the tears.
Since we lost our daughter to stillbirth in December 2006, (I know all the FD here at the local Fh) I have went in and personally talked to them and told them that I know the shock and pain of loosing a baby. IF there is a stillbirth, young baby or even older Child and the family can not afford something to put on there Casket. JUST pick up the phone, I will bring something, and i told them I perfer the family not know where it came from, unless they (the mother or father) need someone that has been in that pain to talk too, who can somewhat understand, then and only then they can tell where the flowers came from, and give them my card. It is something my heart has told me to do and I can't stand the thought of anyone not having flowers BUT especially a baby or a child!! We had a small graveside service for Emily and we asked that only family and very close friends attend, but we were overwhelmed at the cards, plants and flowers we received and treasured each one of them.