Telling it the way it is....to Rhonda

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Mikey the Flower Guy

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I read Tom's post about Rhonda's situation, and it brought back some horrible memories for us as well!!
We bought this business Jan 13/85
Sandie's DAD died Jul 22/85
Started a MAJOR renovation above the shop and BUILT a large and roomy apartment for one MISERABLE old mother in law!
Moved her in the following April, after taking time off from my family business (electrical contracting) during winter construction to make things ready.
Moved her in, got into a big fight with my DAD about taking time off from the business, and I had to leave, hoping the flower business could sustain both Sandie and I...it could not...we had to REBUILD the business from the previous owners.
I had to grovel, and wound up BACK at the family business!!
Summer of 87, the wild weather produced several heavy torrential rainstorms, and the huge drainage spillway near our shop became clogged with storm debris, and the whole area was UNDERWATER for two days, with Mikey and Sandie right in the middle of it, the storm waters didn't quite make it into the shop at the elevated ground level, BUT, the entire contents of our new fledgling business stock was lost stored in the basements of our shop, and our house, which is next door.
Insurance would NOT cover this particular type of natural disaster. We would have to sue the city, the city would have to sue the insurance, BECAUSE, the storm drains were NOT big enough to handle the aggresive water flows.
No money, no lawsuit, no money.
Dec 03/88, WITHOUT ANY NOTICE or warning, contractors move in heavy machinery, park them in the middle of my steet, and by the next morning THERE IS NO STREET.
From 3 weeks BEFORE Christmas, until 5 weeks AFTER Mother's Day, NO vehicular access to our shop,and we turn our home's backyard into a "temporary" parking lot, because our house driveway is the ONLY ACCESSIBLE entrance to our side by each properties.
in 6 months we lost EVERYTHING, 2 almost paid for rental properties, a paid for cottage, and gained a "PRIVATE" financing offer for our HOUSE, which was ALSO free and clear, for $52,000.00, which we COULD NOT claim as an expense, since NO ONE was interested in re-financing our business location, which was "failing".
THAT 15 year repayment plan ends on March 16/03, on top of our regular financing expenses,and lines of credit....
ALL TO PROVE that I would NEVER walk away from ANY calamity or disaster!!
Lost ALL our savings, lost ALL our properties, lost my confidence, and through all that....Sandie and I are still here!
We lost over $163,000.00 IF you include the private financing, and my advice to RHONDA IS....
DON'T do what WE did....KNOW when to walk away!! We didn't!
Mike
 
Wow !!

Mikey , you must have lots of intestinal fortitude to keep taking a s**t kicking and coming back for more, or you must be punch drunk. I'm sort of in the same boat but for a different reason, have been in the middle of a messy divorce in which I got left with the family home , 2 kids , all the bills. Have been trying for two whole years to buy the ex out but to no avail , she seems to think that I will give her the equity in the house and swallow all our debts. Ain't going to happen, was advised by my Father when she left to just eat my pride and bankrupt the works and Iwould be better off , he was right , but as I've invested all the time and energy into keeping it all afloat I just can't let it go. I finally got Her into a court hearing for next Monday, by not paying any debts other than utilities and mortgage payments , that leaves credit card companies sueing for their money and gets her *** dragged into court finally.
 
I just wanted for RHONDA to know...

that she is NOT alone...few of us, IF ANY, have escaped some energy draining, resource killing, emotional degredation events in our lives, and NOT been scarred in some fashion!!
I cannot advise...I can only share, and be honest about my feelings about WHY IS IT, we ALWAYS seem to land on our poor achy feet, and WHY we come back for more, until we're all used up!
I THINK, especially those of us that CHOSE to be in this business, that we are just a different enough breed, to make us UNIQUE, CARING, and TOUGH...all in one package!!
Mike
 
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