We use flower wands for flower girls often. the trick is to keep them small and very light weight. Otherwise, they are too heavy for the little ones to hold.
We use a flat styrofoam circle disk -- about 3 to 4" across. Ribbon trim around the edge, insert a small diameter dowel rod about 18" long for a handle. Glue in the handle!! Lots of ribbons at the handle & then cover with silk or fresh petals or flowers (small, flat headed works best).
We have tried the small cages & igloos -- too heavy with wet foam.
My next try will be will a variation on a CHR trick -- using lots of loops of wired #9 ribbon to make a large puffy bow. Attach a stick handle, ribbon wrapp & glue in the flowers. I think we will have a winner here!
If I can ever figure out how to post pictures, I will add some to here.
My only caution is to make sure that the child does not get this until right before they go down the isle -- they will have a tendancy to run around with it & "bonk" people on the head with their wand!!
Good luck!!
Cheryl