yeah mikey....stop beating yourself up here.....do you not think that you have paid enough.....when do YOU feel that this debt is complete....how much more do you have to give.....or do you feel in your heart of hearts that the debt is now paid.....i do not think that your best friend would have been at all pleased to see you emptying yourself in this way.....and i also do not feel that this is what he meant when he asked you to care for her.....is this what she throws in your face cuz guilt has leverage.....take heart here....read some dr. phil.....he has some awesome advice for this kind of thing.....
Mikey's NOT a happy camper....
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She wants what's best Luc...
and agrees her mom needs a care facility, and out of our house, so we can move on.
Sandie is a wonderful wife and companion, a smart and compassionate friend, and a caring and doting mother for our children, and under NO circumstances, will I let ANYTHING screw that scenario up....so, though as vocal and insensitive as I may sound, when I see the duress in her eyes, I MUST support her decisions more than my own!
I chose HER for a lifetime...I PLAN to be an old man with her.
As for her mother, I hope the earth is flat when she moves on...
Mike
and agrees her mom needs a care facility, and out of our house, so we can move on.
Sandie is a wonderful wife and companion, a smart and compassionate friend, and a caring and doting mother for our children, and under NO circumstances, will I let ANYTHING screw that scenario up....so, though as vocal and insensitive as I may sound, when I see the duress in her eyes, I MUST support her decisions more than my own!
I chose HER for a lifetime...I PLAN to be an old man with her.
As for her mother, I hope the earth is flat when she moves on...
Mike
mikey......mikey.....you do NOT sound insensitive at ALL.....if fact the whole reason you are in this position is that you are the opposite....you are sensitive to others around you and their needs.....but you have gone TOOOOO far.... i sense the frustration in trying to please this woman.....and she keeps raising the standard....and you will never reach the place where you are good in her eyes.....stop trying.....and prepare yourself for the kicking and screaming that will follow because it will come.....and like you have never experienced.....if your mother in law thinks for one minute that all she has come accustomed to is going to end.....watch out......get ready.....but do it.....you and sandie come first.....keep building on that wonderful marriage that you have.....praying for you.....
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