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Please bear with me, I am not usually one to discuss my personal and private life on this forum, but for some unknown reason I have discovered an overwhelming need to share with all of you a personal journey I am about to enbark upon. On Monday morning 7:30 AM PDT I will be having knee replacement surgery on my right knee. This is the first of two that I desperately have needed and put off for many years. I simply reached the point where the injections (ever three months) were no longer working, the amont of pain pills I constantly take and the daily lack of energy and personal happiness has been compromised to the point of complete exasperation!!! Now I ask you..........have any of you put aside a complete MONTH without going to work?? I can not imagine how I will handle this part of it. I'm such a control freak and I absolutely HATE the idea of having others take care of me, and drive me, and in my personal space for as long as its going to take AGGGGHHH. Four days confined to a hospital bed God forbid, I sure hope the Morphine works :), walkers, canes, crutches, I'm having a panic attack just thinking of it!!! This is definately a LET GO and LET GOD time of my life. I have that training (27 years sober) but have not be dilligent with the AA steps and I think they will come in very handy about now. Sooooo, please excuse this long rant and there is no need to respond, I just hope I didn't come off as someone seeking pitty, because that is not what it's about. Wheew, just talking about it helps. Thanks for being here. Marilee
 
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Marilee, Prayers for patience! So great that you are doing this awesome thing for yourself. It takes great courage to commit to surgery. No doubt this will be a growth experiance for you in a number of ways!
Hugs,
Lorrie
 
That sounds really tough what you are going through. I wish you all the luck in the world, trust the staff, i am sure they will do just fine!!!

Hope all goes well and sending positive thoughts from over the pond..
 
Sure - I spent close to 2 months at home laying on the couch after my knee surgery for my cycle accident, all swolen up and smashed on oxycodone.

Then put a recliner in the office and went back but took breaks and naps daily for another couple months. I'd pop an oxy, get in my recliner and nod out.

They did just fine without me - it was me who, like you sound, wanted/needed to be there. I mean, of course they didn't do my job as well as I do, cough, but hey everything got done and there was still plenty waiting on me to take care of to make me feel needed.

and morphine? Someone told me early on in my recovery "we don't have to get loaded, we'll all face some major surgery where they will give it to us" and the 3 times - I rode it for all its worth. The nurses in the hospital the second time (4 days) sais "wouldn't you prefer oxycodone - it lasts longer" (morphine only 1 hour) and my answer was "oh no, the morphine feels way better, and its time for another shot". AND - I didn't compromise or lose my recovery by following the instructions of my program.

Dunno if that helped or not - am on my first cup of java.

Good wishes...
 
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you can do it!

I think you could actually physically close for a month, and have your biz survive. So most actions from those taking the wheel for you have to be way better than that alternative!

Trust that it all will get done - even if you don't believe it.
Trust that you can let go for a while - even if you don't believe it.

Say it over & over in your head, like a hypnotic mantra, and it will be. We all deserve the time to focus on ourselves, and it sounds like you need the time. Take it!
 
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*Moved to the Chat forum to keep it out of the public eye :)*

Marilee,

Good job making the decision to do this!

Ryan
 
If you are strong in your belief this is the best choice, then hop to it. ;) I'm in line for the same surgery Marilee... down the road. I'm so grateful you posted here. Please keep us (me) posted.

Take care and successful recovery to you.

V

P.S. Joe is right. One of the best perks on this board is the ability to share personal things and find support.
 
Had the carpel tunnell surgery done 15 years ago , managed to stay away for 2 days , had to do a special request for a funeral home, after that I said what the hell, worked 1/2 days til the cast came off.
 
Added - onmy 3rd surgery on the knee, in the recovery room they whacked me with *something* in my iv, and I went "Oh hell yeah, that's what I'm talking about - what was THAT???"

"Dilaudid" (oh yeah, I remember that stuff from the 60's and it sold for $30 a pill)

"can I have some more???"

"Only 1"

I went back to work about an hour later - 2yla said "what the hell are you doing here you just had major surgery!!! GO HOME!"

"Oh I feel fine." - you could have thrown me off a bridge and I wouldn't have minded.

So I stayed at work the rest of the day, nodding at my desk.

The next day I realized - I should have listened to 2yla.

Take time to recuperate properly Merilee - we ain't kidz any more.
 
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Every journey of life, begins with just one step....eventually it adds up to past 12....

Know we're with you Marilee, and we'll be thinking of you.

From talking to people that have had this done, you'll be much better off in short order!

God bless...
 
Marilee:
My Dad has had both of his knees fixed. The first few days are the hardest. Take the drugs they offer....do not be brave & wince thru the pain. YOu will need them to heal!

Once the theraphy starts, you will be sore, painful and tired. Take the drugs,.....they will help a lot!

When it is all done, you will say...why did I wait so long?

Your shop will be fine, and so will you!

My best to you. Keep us posted!

Cheryl
 
From one control freak to another...who knew..will send you my back up cameras so you can sit at home, drugged out of your mind and watch all that goes on...lol
You are in my thoughts..be kind to the nurses and wickedly bad to the Docs..take care
Sher
 
Wow good luck and hope it heals very quickly for you. I'm going to need the same thing, (but it ain't gonna happen till Obama makes health care affordable and I will be retired by then). My sis had both hers done the same time and although she won't be skiing, she says she should have done it years ago.

Maybe if the lack of shop control overcomes you, you could have someone put in a comfy chair, and a puter, by the back door so you can see how stuffs coming and going, just shouting directions to the others while you bask in the meds/coffee state of mind.

Best wishes for a speedy recovery!!, Patty
 
A bear hug and prayer sent up from Southern Oregon.

Stress shows lack of faith, be strong and just breathe.
 
Best wishes for the surgery Marilee. I think the hardest part is feeling like you're putting others out because you need them but the reality is you would do it for them, and most likely have already for some/many of them.

Your business will be fine and everything will get done. As JB says it might not get done exactly as you would've wanted it to but it will all be fine.

Plan what you can ahead of time and ask your staff to give you specific information each day, in an email that you can read when is convenient for you, even if it is 2 weeks later. You'll feel better if you know what is happening in your shop.

Now, I need to repeat the entire first paragraph in the mirror three times a day between now and October......
 
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diluadid, oxycodone, morphine.....JB.....Are you a shining example of 'better living through chemistry'?

lol

Marilee, as someone with a metal rod replacing my leg bone......trust your flowerchat friends, Take the time, It will be there when you get back.
 
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O.K., Marilee,

Here is my take on your situation.

I think you planned this whole scenero so you wouldn't have to room with Bobbi,. me and Twyla at AIFD symposium.

Carry on.

Carol Bice
 
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