GREAT SONG! I dedicated it to mom and dad as the "second dance" at my wedding. I'm gonna go find it on YouTube right now!
Sigh.. Might as well get this over with now
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GREAT SONG! I dedicated it to mom and dad as the "second dance" at my wedding. I'm gonna go find it on YouTube right now!
twiggy
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Joanne- I don't know you either, but I do know this, when you share something like this here, we all step up to be there for you. Take comfort in knowing we are all thinking of you and saying prayers for you.
all those prayers.. pretty powerful stuff!
Tracey
all those prayers.. pretty powerful stuff!
Tracey
It was told in one of my seminar i attended for Pallative care that words cannot help the person who his or has loss someone in their life. The pain is there no matter if we know the person died suddenly or it is a lenghty illness.
The best medicine to help someone is to listen. Let them tell you how they feel, let them tell you about the person, let them talk and just sit back and do'nt say a word. A Hug at the end of the conversation is worth more words than a person can say. THe person that has to take care of someone that is dying need more help than a person can imagine. Prepare meals, babysitting the kids, giving her time to herself is more helpful ways to help.
Joanne, I can't tell you How you feel, because I am not in your shoe, all I can is offer my ear, my prayers, my morning "woodie", my Love,
Blessings and Hugs
Luc
P.S. If there is pallative care in your area, Use them! They will give you the time YOU NEED to recharge your energy.
The best medicine to help someone is to listen. Let them tell you how they feel, let them tell you about the person, let them talk and just sit back and do'nt say a word. A Hug at the end of the conversation is worth more words than a person can say. THe person that has to take care of someone that is dying need more help than a person can imagine. Prepare meals, babysitting the kids, giving her time to herself is more helpful ways to help.
Joanne, I can't tell you How you feel, because I am not in your shoe, all I can is offer my ear, my prayers, my morning "woodie", my Love,
Blessings and Hugs
Luc
P.S. If there is pallative care in your area, Use them! They will give you the time YOU NEED to recharge your energy.
Joanne,
It's the hardest thing to say goodbye. It's hard to let go. Sometimes the toughest thing to do is to give someone the permission to go. So watch her closely, watch carefully for the time. God will let you know, his angel will be there, you'll have his help, it is scary to die, but knowing that you won't leave her side will help make it easier. Please know that she will never leave you. She will remain with you and remind you that she is always with you. Go curl up in bed with her for a long time, she is your mommy, and she needs you, and you still have time, probably more time than most of us will get with our moms. Behind the tears you will find love, and gentleness, and acceptance.
I'm sorry. I pasted this video for you. After it's all over, it will make sense. I hope for you, and I hope for your mom too. Thom
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wxawiWqf4gA
It's the hardest thing to say goodbye. It's hard to let go. Sometimes the toughest thing to do is to give someone the permission to go. So watch her closely, watch carefully for the time. God will let you know, his angel will be there, you'll have his help, it is scary to die, but knowing that you won't leave her side will help make it easier. Please know that she will never leave you. She will remain with you and remind you that she is always with you. Go curl up in bed with her for a long time, she is your mommy, and she needs you, and you still have time, probably more time than most of us will get with our moms. Behind the tears you will find love, and gentleness, and acceptance.
I'm sorry. I pasted this video for you. After it's all over, it will make sense. I hope for you, and I hope for your mom too. Thom
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wxawiWqf4gA
I don't even know what to say, but I'm sorry you and your family are going through this. Love and hugs to you..
Sher
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Joanne,
You are in my prayers. Nothing we say can make it better but know that all of us hold you dear to us and feel your suffering as well. Enjoy the remaining days with her...business will take care of itself. May she blessed with a simple passing and know that you carry much of her in yourself,
Sher
You are in my prayers. Nothing we say can make it better but know that all of us hold you dear to us and feel your suffering as well. Enjoy the remaining days with her...business will take care of itself. May she blessed with a simple passing and know that you carry much of her in yourself,
Sher
Tracy D'Amico
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thoughts and wishes for strength, for bearing what seems unbearable.
Find peace in memories, strength in shared prayers, hope in each morning's dawn, and love in friends' and family's warm hugs.
<hugs>
Find peace in memories, strength in shared prayers, hope in each morning's dawn, and love in friends' and family's warm hugs.
<hugs>
Rhonda
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Joanne, you will do what needs to be done for your Mom...that will be a blessing in disguise. Hugs and prayers, you will be in the FC family's thoughts.
joanne, i am so sorry for your heavy heart.
the only thing that i can tell you to help you is if you put all your pain in your hands and visually give it to God, He will carry you through. unfortunately, i know this to be true because of experience.
i don't know you very well only through fc, but i will keep you in my prayers.
the only thing that i can tell you to help you is if you put all your pain in your hands and visually give it to God, He will carry you through. unfortunately, i know this to be true because of experience.
i don't know you very well only through fc, but i will keep you in my prayers.
Flowerpatch
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Joanne,
I am new to FC, and have not spoken with you before. I immediately felt your pain as I read your post this evening, as I lost my father to cancer a few short months ago. I am so blessed to have been able to hear him say to me 20 minutes before he passed, " I love you sissy". I hold that so dear to my heart. I am praying for you that our Lord will give you strength to get through these next days and praying for your mother that she has a peaceful journey. One of my favorite Bible verses that has helped me, In God is my salvation and my glory; The rock of my strength, And my refuge, is in God. (Ps 62.7)
I am new to FC, and have not spoken with you before. I immediately felt your pain as I read your post this evening, as I lost my father to cancer a few short months ago. I am so blessed to have been able to hear him say to me 20 minutes before he passed, " I love you sissy". I hold that so dear to my heart. I am praying for you that our Lord will give you strength to get through these next days and praying for your mother that she has a peaceful journey. One of my favorite Bible verses that has helped me, In God is my salvation and my glory; The rock of my strength, And my refuge, is in God. (Ps 62.7)
Joanne,
I am so sorry. I have watched a couple of relatives die of cancer, and it's not fun. My grandpa died after a several-month struggle. My mom was sick for 3 very long years. She was even unable to come to my wedding... and wasn't even coherent to know it was my wedding day. Coincidentally, her name was Joanne. I wanted to die with her.
I like what Thom says, to go curl up in bed with her for as long as you can. I also thought.. is there somewhere beautiful you could take her for the weekend, or a little longer? A quick trip to see something gorgeous together? Hawaii? Alaska? Mexico?
Please take care of yourself. Cry as much as you want to.. it helps.
Hugs,
Beth :~(
I am so sorry. I have watched a couple of relatives die of cancer, and it's not fun. My grandpa died after a several-month struggle. My mom was sick for 3 very long years. She was even unable to come to my wedding... and wasn't even coherent to know it was my wedding day. Coincidentally, her name was Joanne. I wanted to die with her.
I like what Thom says, to go curl up in bed with her for as long as you can. I also thought.. is there somewhere beautiful you could take her for the weekend, or a little longer? A quick trip to see something gorgeous together? Hawaii? Alaska? Mexico?
Please take care of yourself. Cry as much as you want to.. it helps.
Hugs,
Beth :~(
Thom ,thanks for the video very moving made me cry like hell but thats what i need now. Beth mom isnt ble to go anywhere now, i have to take her to doc on Wednesday and we now have to use a wheel chair as she isn't able to walk very far. I went today and got her a donut ring cushion to sit on as she has lost so much weight her poor little bottom hurts so much to sit on . But it is working fine for now so that she is able to be up . Everyday i see her going down hill and i know she must be in pain but she is a very strong lady and doesnt complain bless her heart , but once we get her talking then we see what needs to be done and go from there. She is really learning that we can see what is going on and our biggest concern is her comfort at this time
Thank you all so much for the prayers, kind words and love. Luc thanks so much for the chat this morning it was truely appreciated
Joanne
Thank you all so much for the prayers, kind words and love. Luc thanks so much for the chat this morning it was truely appreciated
Joanne
Hi Joanne, I'm just getting ready to leave for the day. I have to go help my Mom shower and get into jammies. She is so cross and not very nice to anyone right now. I feel so bad for you. Wanted you to know that I am thinking of you, your mom and your whole family. I hope that you can get a little rest yourself. I know that it's hard. Bless you for being such a wonderful daughter. Love and Prayers, Karen
Dear Joanne,
Many of us have been in your shoes and know your pain. Both of my parents are gone, but I have the wonderful memories of being with each of them as they passed. This is an experience that will be as painful as it is beautiful. A memory that I will cherish all my life.
As others have said, spend as much time with your Mom as you can. Please remember to take care of yourself...it will be easy to forget that. Your post speaks volumes of what a wonderful Daughter you are.
Know that you are cared for and thought about by many. Share your thoughts with others...it will help as you go through even more difficult times.
Love
Twila
Many of us have been in your shoes and know your pain. Both of my parents are gone, but I have the wonderful memories of being with each of them as they passed. This is an experience that will be as painful as it is beautiful. A memory that I will cherish all my life.
As others have said, spend as much time with your Mom as you can. Please remember to take care of yourself...it will be easy to forget that. Your post speaks volumes of what a wonderful Daughter you are.
Know that you are cared for and thought about by many. Share your thoughts with others...it will help as you go through even more difficult times.
Love
Twila
People with far greater experience and wisdom have said it all .. all I can send is hugs and kisses.
Carrie
Carrie
Connie
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Joanne, it's a very hard road that you are traveling now, and please know that I am praying for you, your mom, and all of your family. May God in His infinite wisdom give you strength, courage, unending comfort, and the peace that only He can give.
The wonderful friends at FlowerChat helped me through the ardous journey of losing my father, and I'll forever remember and appreciate them all.
The wonderful friends at FlowerChat helped me through the ardous journey of losing my father, and I'll forever remember and appreciate them all.
Do something
when my mother was dying, I wanted so badly to do something, anything to make it better. I did a lot of the things mentioned here, we were fortunate enough to have time to spend together as the cancer progressed.
I went to the store and bought the most beautiful, softest sheets I could find. Mom had to spend so much time in bed she really did appreciate the nice soft touch. I felt like I was doing something back for her for all the things she did for me in my life.
After she was gone, my daughter who was named after my mom found the sheets in the closet. Katherine was only a year old but she would take those sheets and caress them and rub them against her cheek. I think my mom wanted her to have them.
My prayers are with you. Go buy cheap trashy magazines, sometimes it helps to read about the "problems" of others for just a few minutes.
Donna
when my mother was dying, I wanted so badly to do something, anything to make it better. I did a lot of the things mentioned here, we were fortunate enough to have time to spend together as the cancer progressed.
I went to the store and bought the most beautiful, softest sheets I could find. Mom had to spend so much time in bed she really did appreciate the nice soft touch. I felt like I was doing something back for her for all the things she did for me in my life.
After she was gone, my daughter who was named after my mom found the sheets in the closet. Katherine was only a year old but she would take those sheets and caress them and rub them against her cheek. I think my mom wanted her to have them.
My prayers are with you. Go buy cheap trashy magazines, sometimes it helps to read about the "problems" of others for just a few minutes.
Donna
Hi Joanne
How are things going? We are still thinking of you.
I wanted to let you know that because of you I was able to call my mom and patch some stuff up.
I hope your hanging in there, please keep in touch with us.
Thom
How are things going? We are still thinking of you.
I wanted to let you know that because of you I was able to call my mom and patch some stuff up.
I hope your hanging in there, please keep in touch with us.
Thom
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