weight and personal relations

[vghstaffer]

It's just human nature. We are kind of genetically geared to gravitate to a more attractive person I think.
We are also inundated daily with images of what attractive is.
I know for a fact when I am thinner I get way more attention. When I colored my hair blonde years ago, men bent over backward to open doors, fix my car for free.
You know we are just socially geared to this kind of thing.
I think as you get older, you are more aware of this kind of thing.
My only regret is that I didn't know what I had back then in my 20's and early 30's.
but now that I think about it...on the days I wear low cut blouses, my delivery guy usually throws in a couple bunches of flowers for free. Hmmmm. LOL

 

[lady0003]

weight loss

I had lap band 5 yrs ago and quickly had lost the weight and had plastics done. People that hadnt been in my store for awhile didnt recognize me! The problem was....I didnt recognize myself! Who I saw in the mirror, wasnt who I "felt" I was. I have since gained back some weight and I know what you mean. Can't really explain it BUT it wasnt them who had changed, it was me. I WAS a different person. I no longer let people "step on" or ignore ME. I am not the same person now that I was then since gaining weight AGAIN. I will be that person again. It's all about attitude! Yours and theirs!

 

[Flowerchatter03]

It has been scientifically proven that people perceive you differently based on how you dress. There was a book about it. I think it was called Dress for Success.

There was a study about trenchcoats. Dressed in one color peoples perception was to trust one over the other. I think it was black to brown. It also talks about the "best" suit to wear...the whole powersuit thing with the red tie? Does anyone remember this?

This is one of the reasons on the Peter Perfect show, he changes the way the business owners dress, do their hair, makeup, etc.

 

[Tuberose]

You know, what you said about dressing differently now that you have more choices prolly made a big difference. I'm overweight as well and I swear, they must purposely make clothes for overweight people UGLY on purpose, I get so disgusted! People would be hesitant to trust the beauty, style and design of their flowers to someone that they think has no ability to dress well, and that it may end up looking old fashioned and out of date. They will pick the cute, thin, trendy chic over us any day, they want that.

Congrats on the weight loss, it is a struggle and it changes your inner confidence! Been there done that, your whole attitude changes.

Trish

 

[lori042499]

Thanks for everyone's insight....

I think many of you are right, that my confidence has changed, some days I think I am less confident living in a body that I feel is not mine, some days I am very critical of how I look others I love it....Emotionally this hads not been easy, especially realizing I have been discriminated against my whole life and never realizing it...Sometimes I feel like I have been living with my head in the sand for 20 years...

I am feeling better about things everyday and fighting the emotional battles...there are so many...Thanks for your honest opin ions, I will use them to help me sort through the feelings I have and make peace with all of it...This is part of my life now and I must conquer how I feel about these issues as they arise, I am told that if I harbour bad feelings about my new life that I will probably gain weight bac, so as these issues come up I am working diligently to work through them and put a positive spin on everything to remain victorious on my weight loss,

One thing I know for certain is that I do not under any circumstances want to lose the rest of my life to the disability that is obesity...I have lost so much already and do not want to lose anymore...