lori042499
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Aileen, I am very sorry you are going through whatever it is happened....I really don't think it was Ryan that did anything, he has nothing to gain by it...He really is a helpful guy, maybe a bit blunt and no so explanative in his words, but many are not and many are just too busy....I think you are being used as a pawn in some other issue, as I found out, I was part of and was glad that I kept my feelings at bay on my back room(pm) issues....
As for the PM's, this happens every where...if you all think it doesn't happen, you are all crazy...The admins get to see it and hopefully, keep their level headed professional thoughts going and stay impartial to it all....I think our admins do a great job of this...people by nature can be mean, nasty in their thoughts and it is natural to need to confide in "friends" for this....so lets not blow that out of proportion....some do do this for sport and to egg others on...it is real easy to be sucked into that vortex if unaware it is going on, but when you are seeing all the behind the scenes, it must look very different...and very childish, but taken apart and individualized may be evry innocent, especially if people ar naive to what people can create when smart enough to know how to play them....This is really no reason to make anything like this a deciding factor to leave or stay....it is human nature and will happen professionals or not....private is very different than public, no matter who you are or where you come from...it is in how you respond to the info you get that makes you who you are....
I am one of those people that believes none of what I hear and only 1/2 of what I witness myself....because there is always a third side of every story and agendas on all 3 sides that you never know about....lets all remember that, it is sage advice..
As for the PM's, this happens every where...if you all think it doesn't happen, you are all crazy...The admins get to see it and hopefully, keep their level headed professional thoughts going and stay impartial to it all....I think our admins do a great job of this...people by nature can be mean, nasty in their thoughts and it is natural to need to confide in "friends" for this....so lets not blow that out of proportion....some do do this for sport and to egg others on...it is real easy to be sucked into that vortex if unaware it is going on, but when you are seeing all the behind the scenes, it must look very different...and very childish, but taken apart and individualized may be evry innocent, especially if people ar naive to what people can create when smart enough to know how to play them....This is really no reason to make anything like this a deciding factor to leave or stay....it is human nature and will happen professionals or not....private is very different than public, no matter who you are or where you come from...it is in how you respond to the info you get that makes you who you are....
I am one of those people that believes none of what I hear and only 1/2 of what I witness myself....because there is always a third side of every story and agendas on all 3 sides that you never know about....lets all remember that, it is sage advice..