This is an old thread, but I had to chime in as well regarding the quality, maturity, and flowers used in sympathy design. My take on that is this. For the most part, people who order flowers for sympathy want a nice showing. That does not automatically mean large as possible, or as full as possible however. I think it means a distinctive design that stands out from the others.
One of my favorite designs to send for sympathy is a low mache design of all gladiola....done in a creative western line style. I'll use the glad leaves to make the bow. I'll use the full height of some of the stems and some will be tighter and less mature than others.
As stated on here already......Poor design is just that......poor design.
I am hoping that with the new CFD designation being established by AIFD......that wil help in establishing some type of credilibilty and setting a minimum stnadard for designers and florists.