There is nothing wrong with that. That is a beautiful thing that we are all doing.
The dollar amount for a percentage based fee grows when the difficulty in sending is actually reduced - i.e. it is actually easier to get a receiving shop to accept a $100 order than it is to accept a $40 order. Just look at your own example:
You will accept a $100 order, but not a $40 order.
Not true. My minimums for wire services are $75 because that is what I have to have to justify my cogs. For a direct order from another florist my minimum is $30 plus delivery in my pocket. I have no minimum for my direct customers. I have delivered an $8 bud vase for a direct customer.
It appears that you are actually targeting only those that will/can spend $75 or more. Furthermore, you are only turning the incoming wire customers into direct customers and charging your local customers to send their outgoing orders for them. If you truly want to get customers to go direct, then you should be encouraging your local customers to also send direct. This would be reciprocating the effect. If you accepted an order that I sent to you over the wire and you turned around and told my customer that they spent too much, I would take that as a slap in the face.
Reread my posts. There are times I do refer my customer direct to save them money but I offer to do it for them if they want to pay the 20% fee or $10 whichever is lower.
I am targeting those who don't spend $75 using a wire service also. I don't fill their orders but the WS sends me the recipient name and address which I add to my mailing list for direct marketing.
You are misunderstanding me completely. I am a professional florist, therefore I am on your side. I would NEVER tell a customer of another florist that they spent too much. But I do tell a customer of the WS that they spent too much and I won't apologize for that. I have a healthy and ethically correct relationship with florists in my area. I do compete with them and them with me but that competition is respectful and healthy. Prices and quality speak for themselves. I don't have to bad mouth other florists. If that is the only way to compete then I would be mis-managing my business. I am not in direct competition with florists far away and respect their businesses. You are picking out what I say and making yourself the target instead of the wire services.
Please don't misconstrue emphatic with hostility. I am emphatic about customers going direct in both directions, but not being subject to penalty if they choose to go through a real florist using a WS.
You seem to understand the pitfalls associated with the WS's, but I don't think your solution is going to help instill confidence in the floral consumer. I said earlier that you should get out of the WS and I'll stand behind that statement - not because you failed at the WS, but because you obviously don't need or like the WS.